“There are no bad experiences…only good ones, and good stories” -Unknown
I used to get reprimanded for having too much fun, maybe I was using it irresponsibly, but now it’s one of my superpowers.
Back in the day, I was working in an animal hospital by day and bartender by night, but I had that little voice that would whisper “what are you going to do with your life?” I had no clue but I continued on and stumbled on some fantastic opportunities because I followed what excited me.
I can’t complain about what happened next. I was offered a position to help run a nightclub on the Caribbean island of St Maarten in the Dutch West Indies. I lived for taking risks and uncertainty, I LOVED surprises and I almost didn’t give it a second thought. Within a month, I had sold everything I had, gave my car to my dad and my cats to my mom, and packed up my life into a suitcase, and was on my way to go live a life in the Caribbean.
Now I know what you’re thinking, “I could never possibly do something like that!” Well, you have to ask yourself, “Why not?” You are the only one in your own way making those lame excuses on why you couldn’t try something completely out of your comfort zone.
People tend to take life so seriously. The job, the bills, the stresses of life are serious, I get it, but we need to lighten up a bit and I promise the universe will guide you in the right direction. Follow your bliss and joy and remember you are always supported.
NEWSFLASH: We focus so much on achievement and success, that we lose sight of joy.
One of my favorites mantras is “Universe, surprise me with something good today.”
I also believe that the old saying work harder, play harder is no longer valid. When you are in alignment for your purpose, the “work” is not really work, so you can live in a high frequency of what your soul came here to do in this lifetime.
No wonder why this world has such a drug addiction epidemic, and we have a tendency to not feel happy in the USA. We are not focused enough on our gifts and why we have a soul in the first place. We are looking outside ourselves to take the pain away, but when in reality the answers are inside.
We need to be in alignment with our highest self by digging deep, taking risks, accepting uncertainty, and watch the magic unfold before our eyes. Most importantly, stop taking yourself so seriously. Lighten up. Stop being offended by every action someone else does. Laughing and feeling joy are so therapeutic for the soul.
When we get excited about something, take notice and follow that path. No one knocks you on the head and says, “This is the only right road, take it and you will be promised prosperity.” No guarantee ever, but it’s worth the good experience or good story, I promise.
The things I “accidentally” stumbled across, I couldn’t have planned any better. I say “accidentally” because there are really no accidents, just lessons. Remember in Titanic when Leonardo Dicaprio’s character is having dinner with the rich folks on the ship and he says, “Last night I was sleeping under a Bridge and tonight I’m having dinner with you folks, here’s to making it count.” I live by that legacy. When you let life happen to you, you become a character in someone else’s narrative. But when you decide to take charge of your life, then you get to be the director and be the star of your own show.
When we are in a state of joy and happiness, our intuition guides us on a good path. It’s like breadcrumbs from the universe. Not to be confused with the dark roads of pretty shiny objects and instant gratification, those don’t always serve your best interest. Believe me, I’ve been down a few of those choose your own adventure roads, but with zero regrets because there are no mistakes. Every path teaches you, guides you, leads you into some pretty cool magic.
Have you ever felt being in a flow state? Do you know what that means? Just that urge and sensation of effortless energy guiding you while doing something. Now, this can be anything. The following are examples but not limited to:
- Playing a sport
- Giving a presentation
- Planting a garden
- Teaching children
- Making crafts
- Talking to clients
Take note of when you are in the flow state and be aware of what exactly brings you there.
When you are feeling stuck and stale, get outside and move that energy. It has to go somewhere. If harnessed too long and cooped up, it transforms into the ugly things like depression and anxiety and all that bullshit we don’t want to deal with. When you find fun activities, ESPECIALLY INNER CHILD activities, that’s a great outlet for getting the energy in a flow state.
What did you love to do as a child, that you no longer participate in as an adult?
I’ll give you my example. I grew up close to Huntington Beach, CA where as a child I spent my summers. I love the water, it soothes my soul. I have always loved the sun and the sand, so moving to the Caribbean was a no brainer for me when I could wear shorts 365 days a year and have that beach-hair-don’t-care look. Ain’t one got time for full makeup and high heels every day. Flip flops and golden skin is where my happy place resides.
Well, this past summer as a grown adult I decided to jump into the water with a boogie board. Now, I’ve always lived close to the beach and each time I went, I usually just dipped my toes in the water and that was it. I loved watching the waves, hearing children’s laughter, and sinking my hands into the sand. But this time, I decided to go for it! It was an ode to my 8-year-old son who was old enough to finally get into the waves and he’s an adventure junkie just like his momma. Now I’m telling you, I was riding my waves on zen, little did I know how therapeutic it would feel and I was in complete heaven out there in the water. Instantly brought me back to childhood, where I found so much peace, it was magical!
Now it doesn’t mean I found my purpose for life in that water, but what it means is that I felt so much passion, joy, and bliss that I took home with me that day. I felt so fantastic from the sun on my face, the saltwater on my skin, that I came how feeling rejuvenated and it allowed me to bask in that feeling for days to come.
The takeaway is to remember to stop taking yourself so seriously all the time time.
Make a list of 10 activities that bring you to your happy place, it could be physical, mental, and or emotional. No wrong answers, be creative.
Right now, pick one, and go there. If you can physically get there, picture that place in your mind and take yourself on a trip. What does it smell like? What does it taste like? What does it sound like? What does it feel like?
When you are in your happy place that’s when the magic unfolds. Find the joy in the smallest things and that’s when the passion will grow.